YOUR GOAL IS JUST A TOOL

So we’ve all been told having a goal is important right?

And I’m sure majority of you with have at least one goal …whether you’ve told anyone about it or if you’re actively working towards or not, we’ve all got things we’d like for our futures.

Yet, if we all have them – why are we not actively pursuing, and ultimately fulfilling them, more?

Is it because, over the years, we’ve built an unhealthy relationship with goals?

I’d guess most of us fall into two categories right?;

Maybe we’ve either learnt ‘what’s the point in setting goals; I never fulfill them anyway!’

Or we’re the opposite; we know we fulfil our goals – yet are coming to realise they never leave us fulfilled in the way we’d hoped.

If either of these are our relationships to goals, then maybe the ‘standard’ model of goal setting and delivery doesn’t serve us in the way we need.

Up until recently I fell into the second category; I knew I had good chance of fulfilling my goal, but to do so Id have to really push myself – put in ‘the grind’ and ‘force the result’ I was after.  Only to then set the next goal before the dust had even settled on the previous one.

Because without a goal – how am I meant to keep myself motivated, right?

However over the last few years, I’ve started to learn a very simple yet significant shift in thinking about goals – but one which dramatically improves my relationship with both the journey and the outcome of any goal.

THE ‘GOAL’ IS NOT THE GOAL – THE ‘GOAL’ IS JUST THE TOOL.

So when I say ‘GOAL’ in this context – I’m referring to the specific tangible external output of my actions which I want to create.

But what I’ve learnt is to identify the REAL goal; the feeling/emotions/impact/outcome that I want to create by achieving said tangible external output.

Think about it – that moment when you come up with a new idea or goal – when it’s all exciting and inspiring – what different way of ‘being’ do you see yourself/your future as having?  Is it not THIS which is our goal?

And what we automatically identified the tangible external goal, is actually the TOOL with which to enable us to come that way we want to ‘feel’ or to ‘be’ – as our method to get us to that feeling.

Yet all too often, we fail to identify the ‘feelings’ – the ‘why’ – behind any tangible goal we create for ourselves, and as a result, before too long, we’ve lost the ‘feeling’ goal, and are left with just the empty shell of the tangible goal/output.

At which point you probably either give up, or stubbornly progress but without any real reward at the end.

So the opportunity I present for you now is for a new way of  considering and relating to your goals – by considering;

What change in you is your goal a tool for?

NOW you can focus on the positive change in you – which can happen the instant you choose it … you don’t have to delay it to some future date – and use your goal as a tool with which to reference whether you are being accountable to this change you want to see.

Give it a try – let me know how you get on 🙂

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Authenticity to NOT Know!

So Ive starting this project – GoalHack365 .. Check it out HERE

… but my challenge now is working out how the hell to inspire you to want to get involved, and what your challenges/resistance is in doing so!

Ironically, my challenge is to understand your challenge (in the area of setting and committing to goals/ideas/taking action)

But im not going to go use this post to go into what I ‘think’ your challenges in relation to goals may be.

Instead I wanted to talk a bit about my approach to this particular challenge – in the hope that it will create an opportunity for YOU to gain insight and/or a different perspective from which to consider YOUR OWN challenge.

The temptation when putting anything online and generally in the public realm … ultimately to be consumed and ‘judged’ by others – is above all, to make sure at all costs, to not risk LOOKING LIKE A FOOL!! Right?!

This often means the common temptation of having to ‘have all the answers’ in advance. (and if you don’t have the answers…dont do it till you do!! )  Who knows that feeling?!

However – although approaching things like this/proving people the ‘answer’ may give others some short term knowledge – it doesn’t empower them with a more peaceful way of being the next time they don’t have the answer to the next challenge.

By contrast, im less interested in telling you the answer (..to this or that particular challenge you might be going through…if ive got lucky with the topic I chose discuss!) – and I’m more interested in how to create a new mindset with which to  approach ANY challenge in the future.

Hence my methodology for GoalHack365 is not to just tell you hint and tips of how Ive achieved goals in the past.  Instead I want to document and TAKE YOU ON THE JOURNEY that I am on RIGHT NOW in the delivering of my current goal NOW.  In doing so, my hope is that this authenticity around my challenge will create the opportunity for you to be authentic about yours … and hence you can create authenticity in your audience too!

My hope is that this openness will provide the space in which you can be open about your challenges and unknowns.

And then guess what happens – we’ve gone full circle – and hopefully you’ll feel safe enough to share with me insight and feedback in response to my challenge/goal of understanding how to both inspire YOU to get involved, based on understanding your challenges and how to help you overcome them.

I guess I’ll leave you with one last thing I was considering just a few days ago …about output vs input…

How much of your time do you spend ‘outputting’ your own thoughts (what you ‘think’ people want/need from you) vs inputting REAL information and feedback from these people you want to engage/support/interact?

If your output vs input is out of balance – in the direction of ‘overthinking’ (which I’ll admit – mine very much was!) – then I offer you the opportunity to just have a ‘play’ with what happens if, even for just a short while, you try ‘not knowing’ THEIR answers!

I’ll be honest – its not always easy – and you need to create the context of authenticity with the people you ask for input from.  But if you can work at it, I have an inkling that it could potentially be a powerful ‘hack’!

And do let me know how you get on.

….and of course if this post has created the opportunity for you to want to give me feedback to my challenge, do comment/email too!  Liu@LVBcreative.com

More info about GoalHack365 at:

www.LiuBatchelor.com

https://www.facebook.com/GoalHack365/

Qu: What past obstacle has proved to be your biggest opportunity? 

QU: What past obstacle has proved to be your biggest opportunity? 

OBSTACLES TO OPPORTUNITIES

Obstacles and challenges are bad right?

Right??

Or could then actually be the thing that creates our access to new learning, conversations, and opportunities?

I would identify an obstacle as something which occurs to me as an ‘unknown’ – where I am uncertain as to how or what to do to move forward.

This is contrary to something just being ‘hard work’ – in which I know the route to move forward, I just have to do it.  (Unless of course you find yourself not doing it, in which case procrastination becomes your obstacle!)

So if we really don’t know how to move forward – often it’s simply because we don’t have the right or enough information to be able to do so.  We don’t have enough knowledge with which to make the decision as to which direction to step to overcome our obstacle.

So what information do you need to make a decision?  And who has this information?

And in the enquiry of those questions – lies the opportunity.

Because chances are, the people that will have the answers are your audience!! Be that your customers, suppliers, supporters etc.

Not only is this obstacle/lack of info an opportunity to create conversations and connections with your audience (everyone loves to feel important/knowledgeable when they give advice!) – but it also create the opportunity to accelerate you movement towards the direction that creates more value/impact to said audience.

Not knowing the answer IS an opportunity to GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD and have to go find out what people actually think/want – rather than what you think they want!

Obstacles are an opportunity to learn and grow.

When you are in a place of learning and growth, you often create new ways of doing things that could ultimately become the unique offering that sets you apart from others, or that facilitates a new approach or strategy that are the turning point to your success.

Can we change our relationship with obstacles and challenges – if we look for what they have to teach us?

So, what were your biggest obstacles in the past?

And, what were the opportunities it created?

Qu: Would you rather learn, or be perfect? 

Qu: Would you rather learn, or be perfect? 

LEARNING TO GROW

So, who’s tried the whole ‘content’ marketing approach?  You’ve tried it – yet even though your intention is to do it for the benefit of others (ie. Informative and educational, without being too saley) – you still found yourself procrastination/dreading/bored by the process of having to ‘document’ what you’ve done, what you know, or what this is a good thing for them to do?

Why does it still feel a bit ‘icky’ and ‘self promotional-ly’?

My experience of trying to produce this sort of content (in what ever medium, on any platform) – is the challenge of both trying to find something that is relevant and interesting, and also to make sure that it’s ‘perfect’.  As a result, its often at bottom of my to-do-list – never getting done, but also never getting removed either.

But then something hit me!  What if, instead of trying to ‘document’ what I already know, what if I looked for what the process of documenting provided me; the opportunity to gain clarity, better understand, and even to learn more about the topic I’m wanting to document/discuss?

Don’t they say that the best way for you to know if you really understand a topic is to teach it to someone else?!

In my opinion, the experience of learning/exploring is far more empowering was to approach any situation (compared with ‘documenting’) – plus the chances are your content will be more engaging as it will a) be less likely to come across as patronizing to the reader, b) will include an element of ‘unknown’ and questioning, in which you allow the reader/listener to come to their own conclusion and/or make comments/suggestions in response (which ultimately is what you want right …response mean you know they read it AND its more likely to attract organic social media attention).

That’s certainly a key reason I write these blogs – as the process of writing these blogs gives me the opportunity to really explore and get clear for myself what the core ideas is – before I can share it in a concise way with you!  It also feels a lot more authentic, as It no longer about this unachievable pursuit of being ‘perfect’.

So the opportunity I suggest for you is this; next time you have to write an article, do social post, do a video, etc – what could you learn in the process, about the ideas/topic you are discussing?  With this approach, you’ll probably also find yourself taking on much more interesting and engaging topics too!

…………….

I believe this approach can work in any area of content – and as a result, I’ve been considering applying it to the approach/guests for my radio show.  What are the learning/understanding opportunities the context of the show creates (as opposed to trying to come across as ‘knowing everything’ – both for myself, my guests, and for the listeners?

And the thing I am fascinated by and want to learn about (as we discussing in LAST WEEKS BLOG/discussion around Goal Hacking/Context) is both the process AND experience of how we turn ideas into really.

Therefore… I will soon be adding a section to my show in which I invite guests on to discuss a discovery/idea/learning they made in response to a challenge – within the context of taking an idea from just a goal to reality (in what ever situation that may have been).

The aim of this?  To give YOU, the guest, the opportunity to better understand HOW you created this solution, and therefore to cement your learning, and to allow you to hopefully apply it to other areas or future challenges.

You never know – if you’re willing to look forwards towards what you don’t know, rather than focusing only on what you do know – putting the pursuit of learning as a core motivator – you could become a ‘thought-leader’ for your sector or industry!

If this could be you – give me a shout!

Qu: Is Context Decisive?

Context is decisive

So I wanted to share with you this simple yet powerful distinction – as within it I believe lies an approach that can have the experience of creating anything – be it an idea, project, goal, event, etc – be much more enjoyable, stress-free, and more likely to be successful!

But first, what does ‘Context is Decisive’ actually mean?

When we create context as a distinction, we refer to the space in which something shows up, or (spoken with rigor) the space which makes it possible for something to show up. In the matter of our own lives, who we really are is the context for the events of our lives. I am the space in which the events of my life occur. 

http://www.laurenceplatt.com/wernererhard/contexti.html (I highly recommend this blog btw!)

So as I interpret it, basically if we create a clear enough context (for example: a vision, an opportunity, a possibility), then we create the environment in which these things can ‘show up’ for us.  That’s obviously not to say ‘just sit back and wait for it to happen without doing any work!’ – but how I see it, it creates an inspiring opportunity from which we no longer have to control, pre-define, or even manipulate what we want to show up within the context we create.  We allow a certain amount of organic evolution to occur.

If I look back, it occurs that this was very much how TEDxFolkestone started; I merely created/declared a context (a space for collaboration, leadership and inspiration), and then used the event itself as the context/tool/vehicle within which these things could show up.  Although there was obviously a certain amount of framework provided by TED, there was also a lot of room for interpretation – none of which I defined in advance.  It is this I believe that, for me at least, had the planning and delivery of this event be an amazingly stress-free and enjoyable experience!

I’ve recently been thinking about my next idea/project!  However over the past few days I seem to have forgotten this distinction – and as a result I have been feeling rather ‘stressed’ and frustrated, in my efforts to try and define exactly the content, process, even the results – of what this next idea/project has to be!

From this experience I realized – unless we are creating something solely of our own creation/effort, and purely for our own consumption – then surely we need to allow others ‘in’ on it at some point? (‘It’ being what ever we are working on).  Because isn’t this the point of many of our ideas … in one way or another we use our ideas/projects/events as a way to engage with, contribute to, or communicate with others?  If we want others to be part of it, do we not need to allow them to contribute in some way or another at some point?

So on pondering this, I came to the realization that, in respect to my new idea/project, I didn’t actually need to define it all in entirety in advance!!  The fact the idea inherently involves exploring, learning, experimenting – I now realize it would be completely counter intuitive to try a define it in advance!

Hence I wanted to write this blog;

  1. a) to share this definition and the possibility I hope it can create for you in your ideas/projects.
  2. B) to practice what I preach – and create the context for this new idea, and to see what ‘shows up’ in respect to your responses.  So I invite you to contribute your thoughts and feedback on the below idea…

 

GOAL HACK 365

I plan to explore, in detail, what it really takes to have ideas become reality – and from it create a kind of universal model from which we can have the journey/experience from idea to reality be an enjoyable one (as opposed to a stress/obligation/chore – which I’m sure many of your can associate with experiencing right??).

I’m interested in both the idea stage and the making-it-a-reality stage.

At the idea level, why do we choose the ideas/goals we do, and what type of person does this goal call us to be in order to fulfill it?

How do we resist the temptation to become transfix with a perfectionists idea of what the result/output will look like? – risking loosing sight of the outcome this result was just the tool to create (I.e. In case of TEDxFolkestone, the event was the ‘tool’ from which collaboration, leadership and inspiration could show up)

I find everything about this topic fascinating – and I’d like to really delve into it over a period of time (365 days?!) as a context from which to explore it to the point of having a defined model.  To follow my own advice, I’d create a goal as the tool to focus this exploration (what should the goal be? To create a TED talk from it??  Or something else??).

Id also like to examine other people journeys from idea to reality (as we’re all different right, and this is about creating a universal model for goal hacking).  Would anyone would like to contribute if and how they might like to be involved?  Or how they think others might?

I look forward to hearing if/what shows up in this context of ‘goal hacking’ and ‘ideas to reality’.  Hit me up on Facebook HERE, or drop me an email here